- 追加された行はこの色です。
- 削除された行はこの色です。
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Kaneisha February 22, 2010 at 2:33 am
@Kwame: Let’s be more gentle with Helena. I think that what comes off as her “bad attitude” could also be understood as accumulated disappointments. If there was something that you felt you had worked really hard for and deserved but were denied, wouldn’t you complain loudly about it too? I do very much hope that she tries “something new,” but I know that you and I don’t exactly agree in that arena.
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Lauren September 28, 2010 at 4:02 pm
Maybe, if Black women were’nt taking care of everyone else in the Black community, and trying to prove to Black men how “down” and “loyal” we are for them. Maybe if we actually acknowledge the fact that we are Black AND female-not just Black (which was always bashed in our heads), and didnt’ allow for our identity to be defined through Black men. Maybe, if we re-tapped into our own identity as women and the power of the night. It amazes me how we talk about how “Black men are enjoying their lives.” Of course they are. When have they ever been taught to ensure that Black women were alright, not stressed, and all that? Yet, we have been taught to make sure that their issues and struggles are taken care of, and that we “stand by our man.” Yet, why wasn’t such reciprocated? Why is their least amount of concern for Black women, concerning her pains, struggles, hurts? Black women are NOT the problem. The horrendous atmosphere and ideologies which like to belittle women are the problem! The problem is also the validation of womanhood, by if we have a man or not. The problem is that the art of intertwining with feminine energies in love, healing and understanding has been repressed. The problem is that men are valued more than women in this society, and the hierarchy continues when adding race. The problem is that Black women need to STOP being loyal to ingratitude and the leech-mentality-demanding her energy, but not willing to replenish. The problem is that if Black women REALLY REALLY were to “live our lives,” the Black community would condem her, because that means a loss of privileges, and a re-evaluation of how she has been horrendously mistreated! Period.
